Relationship Therapy – My Approach
I work with couples on an open-ended basis to facilitate a space for them in psychotherapy where they can begin to see the root causes of the relational difficulties that exist between them. At present I only offer online appointments for couples and relationship therapy. Both the participants of relationship psychotherapy need to be in the same space to attend the online session.
The experience of coming for therapy is an opportunity for you to discover for the first or subsequent time in life that you can let go of all the judgements, the fear and hesitation, and begin to talk about what is bothering you. We become wounded within a sense of connectedness – in families, relationships, friendships and society – and paradoxically it is within a sense of connectedness that we can begin to heal. Healing the emotional brain takes time, but it is a creative and deeply fulfilling process that brings wonderful gifts with itself.
People often come to relationship therapy when there is a lot that they have tried amongst themselves, and nothing seems to work to make two people understand each other. The type of psychotherapy I offer aims to facilitate a space for you so that you can get a deeper understanding of what happens within the unspoken space between both of you, and how your individual life histories – more often than not – continue to play a role in influencing how you relate to each other. My focus in relationship psychotherapy is twofold: to understand how your past shapes your present, and to understand what is happening between both of you in the here and now.
The starting point of relationship therapy with me is that the answers for how to repair your relationship lie within both of you, and my role is to facilitate a space where you can begin to connect to that wisdom. Relationship therapy also pays attention to the longing that two people have been carrying all their life into this current relationship, and exploring the ways in which that longing can or cannot be met. Lastly, relationship therapy invites two individuals to open up the vulnerable parts of themselves to their partner in the guiding presence of a psychotherapist, in order to relate to the other person from a different place than a habitual one.
Opening up about your life in psychotherapy can be a very anxiety-provoking experience for many, and therefore, I can assure you that the work I do is not about judgement, but it is to get a deeper understanding of what is going on for you. And to offer you a space where you can be heard and seen. I also offer a warm and non-judgemental space in therapy for gay men and LGB clients.
A Bit More About Me
Apart from working in my private practice (Grover Olufsen Psychotherapy), I have worked with clients in the charity sector in London.
Prior to training as a psychotherapist, I have had a wide exposure in life: I studied a master’s degree in engineering, worked in financial services for a decade, authored three books of poetry, written art & book reviews, been a member of a few international arts and conflict transformation NGOs, and read Buddhist philosophy for fifteen years. I also speak the Dutch language to CEFR Level B1, and have a keen interest in Dutch culture and art.
Psychotherapy Training and Qualifications
- Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy – Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE), London. A 5-year BACP and UKCP Accredited Training.
- Psychiatric Observational Placement in a PICU setting at Baldock Manor Hospital, Hertfordshire.
- Certificate in Counselling Skills, Manor House Centre for Psychotherapy and Counselling (MHCPC, London).
- Certificate in Working Creatively with Trauma, Jill Carter Training LTD, London.
- PD Certification Training: Advanced Diagnosis, Management and Treatment (PESI UK).
- Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), Evergreen Certifications.
- Certified PD Treatment Provider (C-PD), Evergreen Certifications.
Other Qualifications
- MSc (SEng) – University of the West of England (UWE), Bristol
- Online Nederlands Niveau A2, University of Groningen, The Netherlands
Professional Registration
- Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
- Registered Member of the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).
- Member of the Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE).
Fees
Online Couples Therapy: £95 for weekday appointments. £100 for Saturday appointments (where available). Each session lasts for exactly 60 minutes.
Relationship Therapy (for Adult Family Members): £50 per person per session. Each session lasts for exactly 60 mins.
For individuals with an insurance policy, I currently accept the following insurance plans:
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Types of Therapy I Offer
Psychodynamic, Transpersonal and Trauma-informed Therapy
Psychiatric Conditions NOT Covered
At present I do not offer psychotherapy for new clients with a diagnosis of, or signs of, personality disorders at my private practice.